How To Manage, Express, Feel Emotions According to Gross

                                                

Gross Regulation of emotion is how individuals influence the emotions they have, and how they experience or express those emotions.

There are 5 stages of regulating emotions that can be done:

1. Situation Selection 

    The state of a person in choosing a situation based on the choice to socilize or close himself to other people, places and other things to regulate his emotions or regulate his emotions. 

*For example, a person who chooses to watch a movie in the evening before an exam instead of having to study, this is done in order to relieve the nervousness he feels, so he chooses to watch a movie. So you want to choose to be calm down or socialize with other friends so you forget that it's a choice.

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2. Situation Change 

    A person who has chosen what situation is appropriate and must modify that codition to have an emotional impact.

*For example, someone who is uncomfortable with the chat or discussion  topic. When hanging out with friends, then that person will change the topic and end the uncomfortable topic.

3. Attention Deployment 

    Every situation has different aspects and ways to focus attention.

*For example, a person who does not understand the given task, then he must focus his attention on studying, concentrating or solving problems.

4. Cognitive Change 

    Cognitive Change determine how many aspects are taken. Someone will view the assignment as very important inn influencing emotions.

*For example someone who is going to take a school exam, he tells himself "this is just a test"not seeing that the exam is something his life.

*Another example, someone who failed in a race, he said to himself "Only by failing in this race i can train even harder and will win in the next race" Instead of seeing failure as the end, he had to give up.

5. Changes in Response

   

    This refers to a person's ability to influence the emotional response that will be displayed.

*For example, someone who is heartbroken will choose to exercise and spend all his energy on it instead of having to cry all

Thank you for reading to the end and i hope this article is useful for those who are more complicated with their emotions.

Caauses of Narcissistic disorders in growing children

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Praising children too often, emphasizing child privileges, and overly critical of fear and failure can put children at risk of growing up with narcissistic disorders.

Simply put, this disorder is those who are thirsty for praise .. Actually narcissistic is normal because everyone deserves a credit award .. But when someone grows up this behavior can develop healthy or vice versa depending on parenting styles. Those with this behavior could be around you one of their types 

1. They try to do good and like to appear in public to please others, this way they can get what they need, when you give praise they will be proud of themselves and feeling very satisfied. They also want to be known by everyone, it is not uncommon for them to have quite a friendly nature.

2. The second type they like to exploit and abuse relationships for their own benefit, they are often selfish. Expect benefits from others for his satisfaction. They will use their empathy to listen to others for their own sake.

3. They can harm others, they will attack and destroy others in order to sustain their feelings of vulnerability. When they feel insecure seeing others superior to them. They will do anything and try to win it.

4.The fourth type they feel the most superior, the most beautiful, handsome, smart, rich, etc. but actually in their hearts they are very fragile and feel they are victims of failure so they use that feeling to get praise, appreciation and whatever is needed.